figuring it out.

allow me to dissect my relationship with TH in a discrete manner.

as evidenced in all my posts, i'm what you could say "into" my boyfriend. i think he hangs the moon and i can safely say he feels the same. but. that has not always translated into something that works.

we started off kinda rocky, 2.5 years ago, but through a series of events were rejoined. (pretty much a couple months after i moved to nyc we decided to be in a relationship again. long distance. blerg.)

i moved back to dc in june, and since then we have had our ups and downs of getting to know each other in close proximity and with stronger feelings than we'd had in the previous iteration. my job is stressful, his job is stressful, i had to make friends around here while still cultivating our relationship, and WOW we did not know how to be in the same place while still having separate lives.

well, its been 4 months. and i think we've figured out how we work. the weirdest part? neither of us have ever been busier with work or life in general, but somehow, somehow it's working.

i really can't say it's one thing. i think we're learning some basic principles or virtues such as patience (me), time management, supportiveness (not a word, i know), quality time (which must be my love language), etc.

but the bottom line is this: we care about each other enough to, as tim gunn would say, make it work. while it hasn't always been easy, my affection for him is such, that i'm willing to make sacrifices so the "we" receives benefits. to sum up: we're both happy when we're both happy. and we when we're doing whatever we can to ensure this, then well - it works. i've never felt so safe and relationshippy and secure in saying so.

so...does this mean i'm a grown up now? i always felt like that entailed some sort of mortgage or childbirth. but maybe i'm on my way.